hitting the reset button – part I

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading. ~Lao Tzu

There is something to be said for the commitment it takes to see things through, tough things out and stick with it, especially in an age when things, people and relationships have become quite disposable. I respect people who choose to work on fixing things, rather than walk away from that which no longer serves them.

To a point, that is.

Sometimes you just have to accept that things aren’t going to get better.

And then you have to make a decision: keep on keeping on, unhappy and unsatisfied – or – make a change.

Nearly two years ago I decided that I was unhappy with the state of my health and happiness, and I made significant changes to my lifestyle in an effort to make a positive impact in those areas. Mission accomplished. Well, partially… More to come in Hitting the Reset Button – Part II. Hold that thought.

A little less than a year ago, with my health better than it had been in years, I made another decision: it was time to go back to work.

I had a long list of must-haves for any role I would consider. Work-life balance was key. Flexible work arrangement (work-from-home setup) was a non-negotiable. Company culture / who I worked with was vital. I found the perfect thing, it seemed, and I excitedly shared my news with you as the Snake left and the Horse entered.

While the work-from-home setup has been wonderful, and the work-life balance great, the work itself left me wanting.

My biggest learning from this past year is just how important my perceived contribution is to my fulfillment. If I don’t feel I’m adding value, it doesn’t really matter how many items land in the ‘pro’ column. That one specific item on the ‘con’ side of the ledger outweighs all else.

I tried to address this. Tried to see things through, tough things out, stick to it, but it seems there was a disconnect. Where I felt I was adding little value, the executive felt I was doing a bang-up job. Total misalignment of expectations and perceptions. And it wasn’t going to get better.

changeSo I’ve made a change.

And this changes everything.

While my new role, which starts tomorrow, is still a work-from-home arrangement, it is a big job. One that will really test my work-life balance resolve.

It’s a role that will see me traveling at least 40% of my time, and colouring way outside the lines of a 9-5 picture.

But it is right in my wheelhouse. I get the opportunity to grow a business unit that is still in its embryonic stage. I get to coach and develop sales talent. I get to rejoin a corporate environment and make a big impact.

I am excited. And terrified.

Everything is going to change.

That’s a good thing, because things really needed to change.

One change that saddens me is the realization that I will have a lot less time to spend blogging, both on the writing and reading sides. I look forward to trying to catch up on weekends and in the evenings, but I imagine that – at least for these first few weeks – things will be pretty hairy around here.

So please pardon my absence, dear friends. It’s not you, it’s me.

Wish me luck on my first week, which will see me in Atlanta from Monday to Friday. And don’t forget to…

Keep moving,

xoxo nancy

62 thoughts on “hitting the reset button – part I

  1. I am (as you know!) so excited for you!! I am sure you will have the capacity to maintain a positive approach to health through this! You may just have to find a new way of moving 🙂 I feel a bout of body weight HIIT in your future!!

    And how…goodluck…although you don’t need luck, you will be awesome…you will be you!!! Xx

  2. Congratulations & best wishes!!! I know how unsatisfied you have been with your work situation and I’m excited you have this new challenge ahead of you 🙂
    If you need a shoulder – to laugh, cry, drink coffee, drink wine, eat cake, unwind, windup, etc – you know where to find me ❤

    • Me too, Cynthia! I didn’t realize how much anxiety an empty work plate would cause me. Im excited to jump into what seems to be more work than i could have hoped for. Careful what you wish for, as they say. 😉

  3. Hi Nancy! I SO-O-O wish you good luck on this new experiment. And isn’t that always the way it is? I definitely prescribe to the thinking that we are either growing or dying as time goes by and I think you’re choosing to grow again. How can that be anything but good in the long run!!!! We will miss you but definitely take the time you need to get your feet planted on the ground a bit with this new path. Then think of all the blog posts that will come out of THAT. Meanwhile, if your travels bring you anywhere close to this area of the planet…let us know! ~Kathy

    • I love that sentiment! And I am choosing to grow! Thank you for your sage words (as always!) Kathy!

      I will most definitely let you know the next time I’m in SoCal. HQ is in Irvine, so i won’t be too far from you!

    • Thanks so much, NH. I would be lying if i said i wadnt worried about falling into old habits, but I’d be kicking myself later if i let this opportunity pass me by. Hoping that awareness will help me strike a better balance this time.

  4. Nancy, it takes a massive amount of courage to firstly find yourself and then secondly know yourself. To act upon that inner gut instinct is yet another leap that most folks only dream of because fear holds them back. All I can say to you is a huge BRAVA for making these changes. I have a motto I use with my kids that I hope you’ll find applicable to the gutsy choice you’ve made: Life is short. You spend a long time dead.
    In other words, grab it and run.
    Well done, you. I hope we’ll get some updates on how the newest chapter in your exciting journey is unfolding. Excitement abounds!

    • Have I told you lately how much I love and value your comments? Thank you, Shelley, for your awesomeness! It is my huge hope that one day I’ll get to meet and share a bevvy with you!

  5. Take care, Nancy and congratulations for taking the steps you needed for personal fulfillment and for finding a great new job. Reading between the lines of what have (and have not) posted lately I thought a job change was in your future and I wish you all the best tomorrow morning! If your travels bring you up north to my corner of the world let me know!

    • I really hope so, Carrie. I’m so excited to work for this particular woman. She is dynamic, smart and super supportive. Sadly, that’s not always the experience when female leaders manage other female leaders. How refreshing!

  6. I am proud of you and excited for you. I think it shows what great character you have to be willing to take a risk in order to do something that fulfills you career wise. We will miss you, but this is more important x10000. Best wishes this week, Nancy!

    • Thank you, gorgeous! Guess what I’ve done the past two mornings? I ran. Pitifully slowly, but I ran. I suspect running may have to enter the regular rotation since i won’t have hours to fart around with a bunch of other exercise options. 🙂

  7. Good luck Nancy! Don’t worry about the blogs. We will all still be here and we won’t love you any less just because you have given your time to your new special friend 😉 I love that quote btw. I ised to have it on the whiteboard at work although my version was slightly different (I think there are many translations?).

    “If you don’t change direction you WILL end up where you are going”

    I think the distinction between MAY and WILL is really interesting.

    I think toughing things out applies to certain things in life and job satisfaction, especially when you have given it 100% for a reasonable period of time, is not one of them. It is not something that comes from “trying harder”. You are clearly a wanted woman in your industry to be in a situation where you get to negotiate such favorable terms. Go put those skills to good use and add the value you seek! Enjoy the ride xx

    • WILL is much more likely the outcome than MAY. Good catch!

      I struggled with the idea of leaving after less than a year on board, thats so not my modus opendi, but i had to face reality. Things were not going to get better.

      I’m stoked about the new opportunity! Thanks for the well wishes and kind words, lovely!

  8. I’m so very excited for you! I know how important it is to me to feel as though I’m contributing so I totally get why you are making a change! I will be sending you good energy next week as you start this new adventure and chapter in your life!

  9. Was just popping in to say hi and WHAT????? Congratulations on your new adventure!! It sounds exciting and terrifying, as you put it. You are one amazing woman, Nancy. House renovations, workouts, house sales and now new job. If work takes you to the Northeast, please let me know! Boston? Even though I have been hiding for a bit, I will miss you TERRIBLY!!!!!!!!!!!! 😦

  10. Wow! Exciting Nancy! You are a true go-getter and so inspiring. Good luck in your new role and I know we will see you around. I am certainly not around as much these days either but I pop in and I know you will too 🙂

  11. Nancy,
    Congratulation on the new gig. I’m sure you will miss your blog time and find a way to keep it going. Your quote from Lao Tzu really struck a chord with me. It was a comment, or should I say warning, that if “the threat” continued to be made, I would follow through. There is a light at the end of this very long tunnel and it is not an oncoming train!

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