learn, baby, learn

untitled (2)Change is hard. Even when it’s change that YOU initiate.

I began a new job last week. In addition to lots of change, there was also a lot of learning.

Sharing is caring, so I am pleased to share with you my Top 10 learnings from last week. And screw you, spellcheck, learnings IS a word. Stop judging me.

Nancy’s Top 10 Learnings of the Week:

  1. Change is good: During my trip to Atlanta last week, I attended a training session focused on helping our business partners change their business models. The facilitator shared this quote from retired US Army general, Erik Shinseki, “If you don’t like change, you’re going to like irrelevance even less.” Wow. Talk about the universe sending me the right message at the right time. Get comfortable with change. Or else.

  2. Maya Angelou was a genius: This week one of her quotes kept bouncing around my head, “When people show you who they are, believe them.” She went on to clarify, “And believe them the first time.” I had the good fortune to experience some really amazing and kind people last week, making me feel pretty damned smart about my decision to join this group. On the flip side, I saw some pretty ugly and vindictive behaviour from others – also providing proof positive that I am exactly where I should be. Trust your gut when it comes to people. And believe them when they show you who they are.

  3. Air travel can suck. But shut up you ungrateful heathen! It’s still SO FREAKING AMAZING! If you need to be reminded of just how miraculous it is, please watch this clip from Louis CK. If you’re too busy to watch all four minutes [insert snarky tone here], start the clip at the 2:03 mark. I guarantee you will laugh. And then you’ll feel like an asshole for ever griping about flight delays or having to remove your shoes at the airport.

  4. The awe and wonder of a child will always win out over the cynicism of the jaded. Friday night saw me flying home from Atlanta via Charlotte. One row ahead of me sat a little boy, perhaps 4 years old, and his mom. At the moment the wheels lifted off the ground, he squealed with unbridled delight, “WE ARE FLYING! WE’RE FLYING MOMMY! WOOOOOO WE’RE FLYING!!” His excitement sounded exactly like Louis CK’s at the 3:25 mark in the clip, and served to make me totally crazy happy too! Some 4+ hours later, when I got the news that my flight was cancelled and I’d have to spend the night in Charlotte, I had a moment of bratty entitlement, SERIOUSLY? THIS IS SUCH BULLSHIT. But then I remembered that little boy (and Louis CK).

  5. In case I ever forget, please remind me: Sweat is the magic elixir. Travel on Monday killed my workout plans. Tuesday was my first day at the Atlanta office, and my head was SPINNING by 6:00 pm. I told myself I should go for a run, but decided to have dinner first. And then a few groceries seemed like a good idea (I had a kitchenette in my room). By the time I made it back in, I had lost all motivation to hit the gym. So I didn’t. Two days in a row of no exercise = no bueno. By Wednesday night, some negative stress had built up (see bullet 2). I knew I should exercise, but went to a lovely dinner with my new boss and a peer. It was past 8pm before I got back to my room. I really didn’t feel like hitting the gym that late, but I did anyway. 30 minutes later, I hopped off the treadmill, drenched in sweat, with a clearer head and a lighter spirit. I need to always remember this. Exercise makes me feel BETTER. Running doesn’t always suck.

  6. In case there was any doubt, Murphy’s Law is real. My house had been on the market for 24 days when I left for Atlanta on Monday. We’d had many showings but not a single offer. As Mr. Enthusiasm drove me to the airport I said, “Mark my words, an offer will come in this week, while I’m away, just because it will be trickier for us to respond to it. It’s Murphy’s Law.” He dismissed me. Yeah, uh, who’s eating crow now?? An offer was presented Thursday evening. We went back and forth over the next 36 hours, and it *appears* we have a deal.

  7. And of course that prick Murphy had to prove his law by delivering said offer an hour before I was scheduled to meet up with Lynne of Curvy Roads fame. Insert mad scramble here. Instead of Planes, Trains & Automobiles it was Scanners, Printers and Fax Machines. I had a moment of panic – shit, should I just cancel? What if I need to take a bunch of calls during dinner? Or make a mad dash to a place that has a fax machine? Maybe it’s just better if I cancel? But then I remembered that my last 3 meet-ups with blog friends have been amazing and wonderful. And this was no different. Once again I’m reminded that blogging is about so much more than writing. It’s about cultivating relationships through rich conversations, and results in great friendships. Thank you Lynne for coming so far out of your way to meet me for dinner! It was such a pleasure!

  8. Blogging is also a great escape. When I sat down to catch up on blog reading this morning, initially it felt like I was addressing a task on my to-do list. A few sips of coffee later, and I got lost in reading your stories. With the house all quiet, it ended up being a lovely reprieve from a whirlwind week. It wasn’t obligatory. In fact the minute it starts to feel that way, there’s always the unfollow button. (Which works both ways, by the way.)

  9. Playing dress up is fun! As grown ups, we have to act grown up most of the time. So when a holiday that encourages you to play dress up comes along, why would you not take advantage of it? Hallowe’en is the one day adults are given a free pass to be whoever they want! I found out that my company (a very corporate environment) has an annual Hallowe’en costume contest at the Atlanta campus. How fun, right? I was blown away though when I saw that this was supported at the highest level. Our EVP (aka the boss of my boss) dressed up as Elpheba from Wicked. I swear she had on the actual wardrobe from the Broadway show, right down to the painted green face. Fully awesome!

  10. Always remember to be thankful. My buddy, Kathy, at SMART Living 365 has just kicked off a month of gratitude. She will be listing 10 things for which she is thankful every day of November, in alignment with the US Thanksgiving holiday landing this month. I have so much to be thankful for, this week and every week. But I’d say a week where I got a great new job AND sold my house… pretty good week as good weeks go.

The genius of Louis CK:

Keep moving!

xoxo nancy

70 thoughts on “learn, baby, learn

  1. that child on your plane…that is me when flying…

    I am slightly quieter about it…mostly!

    Yeay awesome for apparent house deal 🙂

    well done for going to the gym…exercise does make you feel better!!

    I am so pleased that your job move it proving to be the right one!!

  2. Best of luck on your new job, Nancy. It takes a lot of courage to make a change like that. The quote about irrelevance rings true for me and in my industry. Times dictate that change is fast and furious. Its not always comfortable, but often times necessary.

    • In the technology space change is the only constant. I suppose for me though, the quote was less about the technical aspects of change and more about the esoteric stuff: i.e. getting too comfortable (like I was at the previous place) and moving towards being very uncomfortable (like I am in the current place). I remember, too, a line from Jillian Michaels, “Get used to being uncomfortable! Change doesn’t happen in your comfort zone.”, which was related to exercise, of course.

      Anyway, I’m so glad I made the change I made. And everything that happened (both good and bad) confirmed it was the right decision.

  3. I love flying 🙂 That speed rush on the runway at the beginning never fails to make me grin 🙂
    Sounds like everything is coming up Nancy! Congrats on the offer and a successful first week!

  4. First off, I will accomplish nothing at all today because you’ve introduced me to Louis C.K., who I knew existed but I never really paid attention to. I shall have a binge fest and work be damned! 🙂

    Secondly, you’ve mentioned a couple of times about people that have disappointed you with their sour attitudes, and I’m sorry that there were those in your life that revealed themselves to be less. But, I’m so very happy that all of the signs are pointed to the fact that you made a great decision! And, I’m so happy for you!! I love the change and the energy that is filling you right now! But, I really love that everyone dresses up at work for Halloween! 🙂 🙂 🙂

    And I’m doing one month of thankfulness in Instagram. I’ve never really participated in that because I prefer to live a life of gratitude, and not just spend one month documenting/talking about it – but, well, I couldn’t resist this time 🙂

    In conclusion, Louis C.K,, congrats and gratitude.

    • Best comment I’ve seen today! And Louis CK rocks my world. I know a lot of his material pushes the boundaries for a lot of people, but I think he is truly genius!

    • Me too, Scott! It could have gone either way, but then again, probably not. This time I did a lot of due diligence and research and felt like I knew what I was getting into. 🙂

  5. 1. Congrats on the “apparent” house sale. Woo Hoo!

    2. “When people show you who they are, believe them.” . . . YES! Our intuition is often right on the money picking up their positive, or negative, vibes. Glad your new cohorts fall on the positive side of that ledger.

    3. I once worked for a schizophrenic. She was scary. And WICKED. No Elpheba costume required.

    4. I am at the point that my body ASKS for exercise when I’m ignoring it.

    “Um, excuse me.”
    “I feel the need to move.”
    “Now. I need some exercise. NOW.”
    “Just a minute. I just want to . . . ”
    “Get off your #$#%$ ass and go for a walk!!!”
    “Or what?”
    “Or I’ll allow S~T~R~E~S~S and W~O~R~R~Y to keep you awake ALL NIGHT.”
    “Um . . . OK. Let’s go for a walk.”
    “Now you’re talking!”
    “And walking!”

    5. That Lewis C.K. clip is perfect for our entitlement-oriented, impatient society. Life is amazing! Even if we aren’t flying across country in 5 hours.

    6. Rock on!

    • I happened to watch the clip earlier in the week (actually during the training session I mentioned), so when that little boy squealed with elation, it filled me with joy! At least someone gets how cool this is! 🙂

  6. WHOA! Congratulations Nancy! It sounds like you had an AWESOME week even if it didn’t all turn out exactly as expected. I think when we take the time to really focus on the good things that happen it blows the negativity out of the water. It’s just that our ole lazy minds want to make a big deal of the drama and strife that we remember the bad stuff at all. Keep exercising, keep smiling and yeah, I’m doing my TToTs (Ten Things of Thankful) every single day this month! ~Kathy

    • I love that seemingly random things: the little boy’s excitement, reading your post on gratitude, etc., happened at the perfect time to put (and keep) me in the right frame of mind! Onward and upward!

  7. So glad you survived your first week with your wonderfully positive attitude in check. I have to take two flights today myself. I’ll watch that Louis CK clip before I’ll board. Will give me the attitude adjustment I’ll need before stepping on that claustrophobic beast. Congrats on the house offer!

  8. “learnings IS a word” Yes it is! What a week you had, Nancy! My fingers are crossed for a successful inspection report and I’m so happy to hear such a great report from your first week on the job. 🙂

  9. What a week you had! So many big changes, and yet it seems like everything is falling into place. Running doesn’t ALWAYS suck, sometimes it does, and sometimes it’s the only thing available to you so you gave to go for it.
    Bullet point #7 is what stuck for me. I’m infamous for canceling social engagements and otherwise fun things for work related activities that “might” happen. Basically I spend every day expecting the worst to happen, and a lot of times it’s kept me from going out and enjoying the human experience. I am getting better though. Cellphones work pretty much everywhere these days. People understand your career is important and would much rather have you there, even if you have to make a business call. Plus, you gotta have a little faith in the other people in your life who can take the wheel on the one off chance that something does happen. I’m glad you got out, got social, and had a great time.
    So so proud of you for your ongoing adventure. I hope this week is just as amazing!

    • Totally on bullet 7, Martha. Lynne confessed to me that she has struggled a bit with prioritizing on social stuff as well. I think it’s amazing that we made the meet-up happen given the distance she had to travel (~90 mins drive each way) and the amount of ‘stuff’ I was juggling that week. In the end, I think we were both so happy we had prioritized on it! It was a fun night of conversation with topics ranging from the deep to the superficial! All fun!

  10. Nancy, this post was so great to see today!

    So, in a nutshell, you had ‘Manny’ and ‘Woohoo boy’ all in the same trip! I love that. And yes, we are an impatient people, aren’t we. I am SOOOO glad you didn’t cancel our dinner, as I totally agree, it was miraculous that we could make our visit happen, and I assure you, the pleasure was all mine! It was a fun night and we did have some fun conversation, including both the deep and the superficial. 😀

    So excited that the house offer is looking promising and damn woman, you learned a LOT in one week. So glad the change is working so well for you. I am very much looking forward to keeping in touch, my friend.
    XXOO Lynne

    • Ha! Manny was actually on the August trip to New Jersey, but totally a treat! Woohoo boy tickled my socks off with his glee! 🙂

      Thank you, once again, for coming out so far to have dinner with me! The time flew by, didn’t it?

      Take care, my friend.
      xoxo nancy

  11. That video was a riot! Now I have to look for other ones! Congratulations on your house selling. Now comes more stress with finding a new home! Lots of luck to you!

  12. I loved your list and the clip from Louis CK made me laugh. We all need a wake-up call once in a while 🙂

    I’m glad you sound so happy (even if a bit frazzled) after week one on your new job … and congrats on the sale of the house – even if I feel a bit crushed it’s not mine 🙂
    Hope this week delivers more of the good stuff!!

  13. Whoa! That’s a lot of learnings, chica! So much going on in your life!!! I am happy to hear that although exhausting, your new job is going well and that you know you made the right decision. Excellent on your house offer! I hope it goes through with minimal problemas. Please get some rest though! That’s an order! xoxo

    • If I thought I was tired and overwhelmed every night in the hotel last week, WHOA! Today I feel like I am REALLY TIRED. I know, in time, I won’t feel so overwhelmed, but today, at this moment, I feel like I’m flapping around in the ocean, fighting to keep my head above water. 😦
      Soon it will get better, right?

      Hope you’re doing great, amiga. xoxo

  14. Awesome! Lots of good learnings here!! Nothing better than having it smacked in your face that you did the right thing. Congrats! And nice job getting yourself to the gym when sitting down to a glass of wine must have sounded better 😉 I’d love to meet up with you one of these days, I’m confident we will cross paths eventually! And I agree to not reading blogs that feel like an obligation, the ones that don’t feel that way are the people I want to meet. Finally, Murphy’s law for me too regarding sale of a house….our home we rented the last few years is on the market and we were certain it would sell in an instant, not so much. But then an offer came in this morning while my realtor is overseas, 6 hrs ahead and having internet trouble. Argh! Oh well, hoping it all comes together and sticks by tomorrow. Xo

    • YAY on your house offer!! So awesome, Kerry! Fingers and toes crossed for you!

      The house inspection seems to have gone well. I was on 3 hours of calls/meetings while it was happening this afternoon. The wife of the buying couple was here with what appeared to be her parents or in-laws, and when I ran upstairs to grab water between calls, I shook her hand and introduced myself. She is in love with my house. 🙂 I could see it all over her face. Methinks this deal is done.

      …funny…not sure how I feel about that, actually. :-S

      p.s. We will definitely meet up one of these days. Of this I’m certain!

  15. You definitively have had changes in your life lately! Congrats on taking them head on and looking at the bright side of them!

    Yes. Murphy’s law is sooooo real.

    • I’m consciously trying to take a post I’ve attitude into all these changes or else I know I’ll end up a total wreck every time I hit an issue (and there have been many). That Murphy can be a total prankster, can’t he?? 🙂

  16. OMG I love this post so hard, Nance. Quality. Such quality.

    I love that quote at number 1. That is a pearler (ahem, that is ALSO a word spellcheck!). I’m tempted to print it and put it on the wall. Oh and the one at number 2 too!! Man I could have applied that one to lots of the men I met in my life over the years (Eric included! lol).

    I am so hearing you on the sweat thing right now. I need to get back to that place. I miss it so much. So do my hips.

    I’m so so so happy that you might have a deal on your house!!! Yay!!! That is super exciting and yes, of course it always happens when it is the least convenient. What is it with the universe? I suppose it has to keep itself amused.

    As always Nancy, I think you’re awesome. Thanks for sharing so much goodness with us.

    PS. That video clip is brilliant. Thank you for sharing!!

  17. Boy, do I know a thing or two about Murphy. Congrats on the new job and the sale offer. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for a smooth closing and new digs to call home 🙂

    • Looks like the home inspection went well – although technically they have until Friday to re-neg. Fingers still crossed!

      Murphy must just sit back with a big ‘ol bowl of popcorn and watch the havoc he wreaks with an evil grin on his face. 🙂

  18. Congrats on the new job and love this post…very inspirational and thought provoking……and positive! (AS ALWAYS!!!) have a good rest of the week!

    • Thanks Diana! I’m feeling even more overwhelmed this week than last week, but things are slowly starting to gel for me. I think I underestimated the magnitude of joining a new company, learning all new systems/tools/processes AND leading a team. Any previous time I’ve taken a leadership role in my career, it’s been within the same company. So this is a LOT of change… but I know in my heart it was the right decision.

  19. Great learnings Nancy! Air travel is an interesting topic, it can suck and even when it goes smoothly, it’s tiring. On my latest 6 flight trip I discovered that the TSA precheck helps quite a bit, no need to take shoes or jackets off, laptop can remain in bag etc and the line is much shorter… always something. Happy you’re having fun handling the steep learning curve.

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